FAILURE TOLERANCE CHALLENGE: DAY 3 - On Money

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This is a post in a six-week series on Failure Tolerance as a Magnetic Practice. If you want access to the full curriculum for this series, subscribe to The Twelfth House. Check out Day 1 and Day 2 of the Failure Tolerance Challenge here.

Welcome to Day 3 of our 5-Day Failure Tolerance challenge. Every day, we’re inching a little closer to upping our failure tolerance using approachable and ~available~ strategies.

Now, maybe the reason you’ve been here the last few weeks being all cute and curious about increasing your failure tolerance is because you’re feeling creatively constipated, and you realize that bumping up your failure tolerance a few points will help you unlock … something. (What? Who knows, not me!)

Maybe you've been following our failure tolerance coverage because there are specific goals, projects, experiences that you dream of doing, but your raging imposter syndrome-slash-self doubt talks you out of taking action every time like a pessimistic life coach with commitment issues, and goddamnit, you're sick of it!

Maybe you've found life a little boring and uninspiring lately, and you feel strongly that flexing your failure tolerance will jolt the life back into your faintly beating heart like emotional defibrillation administered by a caffeinated motivational speaker.

Or maybe, maybe, you have a feeling that this failure tolerance thing is the key to unlocking more ✨abundance✨

Let's just call a spade a spade—a financially motivated garden tool, if you will. When you say you want abundance, what you want is more money.¹

So let's talk about cash M-O-N-E-Y and failure tolerance, shall we?

Time to get financially naked. Metaphorically. Please keep your clothes on. Or don’t! Who am I to judge.

A big element of increasing your failure tolerance is noticing the somatic discomfort of rejection (or anticipated rejection) and figuring out how to transmute that panic response into something more manageable and less terrifying.

This embodied fear comes up so strongly when it comes to Money Work.

And we talked about it in this episode, but here’s the gist:

There are lots of ways to make more money. Some involve developing actual skills. Others involve asking nicely. We're focusing on the asking nicely part today.

One relatively easy way is to get more comfortable asking for more money, and in turn “holding” more money. (Not literally holding it, money is actually so unsanitary. I mean metaphorically holding, as indicated by the quotes)

If you can ask for more money with a regulated nervous system, people are more likely to pay you. You’re confident, clear, competent, and able to name your price without wanting to faint or flee the country. Hot. Financially attractive. The kind of person who probably has their shit together and definitely knows what they're worth.

If you can handle having more money in your bank account without your subconscious staging a full-scale psychological coup, your brain won't:

1. freak out as soon as you make more and find a way to spend / lose the “excess” in your accounts until the numbers are at a place that’s more comfortable for your somatic system

2. put you in positions where you can’t see the opportunities to earn more