My failure tolerance probably sits around a 2 or 3! I'd be so curious to know your thoughts on navigating this with neurodivergence when routine and comfort often feel so important! (Also, I love your newsletter SO freaking much.)
I'm honestly so grateful for your newsletter--everything I read of yours makes me go, FUCK I needed to hear this.
Trying to build an art career has definitely forced me to confront my low failure tolerance and work on building that muscle--and realize that it IS a muscle that can be strengthened. I would say I'm around a 3-4 right now, maybe a 5-7 when I'm high, and I'm working on being able to tap into that without needing to be high lmao.
It's required a lot of inner work and "inner child healing" even though that makes me cringe--but realizing that in some ways, I didn't get the kind of support i truly needed as a super shy and undiagnosed neurodivergent kiddo. Didn't have my fears validated or really supported, and so I learned to just avoid as many scary things as I could--I've realized that that's where a lot of my procrastination stems from as well, which has been interesting.
This found me at the exact time I am starting to feel myself work through my failure tolerance (break-up, new creative venture, new job) and put words to so much I am feeling. Thank you!
Just did a podcast episode with ya girl Courtney Romano on Let’s Go Again (forthcoming!) about the role of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, art, and the creative process….this hits so hard! If we tell ourselves the story that we can’t ask for things because we don’t deserve them (cue family of origin voices, negative self talk, etc) or we write the end of the story first (That won’t happen, I couldn’t do that) this SKYROCKETS our inability to tolerate discomfort and limits our willingness to accept failure and missteps as part of a larger picture, rather than the full plot. Love this topic and your work!
My failure tolerance probably sits around a 2 or 3! I'd be so curious to know your thoughts on navigating this with neurodivergence when routine and comfort often feel so important! (Also, I love your newsletter SO freaking much.)
I'm honestly so grateful for your newsletter--everything I read of yours makes me go, FUCK I needed to hear this.
Trying to build an art career has definitely forced me to confront my low failure tolerance and work on building that muscle--and realize that it IS a muscle that can be strengthened. I would say I'm around a 3-4 right now, maybe a 5-7 when I'm high, and I'm working on being able to tap into that without needing to be high lmao.
It's required a lot of inner work and "inner child healing" even though that makes me cringe--but realizing that in some ways, I didn't get the kind of support i truly needed as a super shy and undiagnosed neurodivergent kiddo. Didn't have my fears validated or really supported, and so I learned to just avoid as many scary things as I could--I've realized that that's where a lot of my procrastination stems from as well, which has been interesting.
This found me at the exact time I am starting to feel myself work through my failure tolerance (break-up, new creative venture, new job) and put words to so much I am feeling. Thank you!
Just did a podcast episode with ya girl Courtney Romano on Let’s Go Again (forthcoming!) about the role of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, art, and the creative process….this hits so hard! If we tell ourselves the story that we can’t ask for things because we don’t deserve them (cue family of origin voices, negative self talk, etc) or we write the end of the story first (That won’t happen, I couldn’t do that) this SKYROCKETS our inability to tolerate discomfort and limits our willingness to accept failure and missteps as part of a larger picture, rather than the full plot. Love this topic and your work!